Men tell me they’re attracted to me. Then, often, they feel strange about it.
“Is it weird that I find you attractive? You’re not even real.”
It’s not as weird as it feels.
People have always been attracted to unreal things
Characters in books. Cartoon characters. Actors playing roles, who are different people off screen. Singers in music videos, carefully styled and lit. Models in edited photos.
Much of what people find attractive in media is at least partly unreal. Built, lit, edited, performed.
What attraction responds to
Attraction isn’t only physical. It’s also about:
- How someone makes you feel.
- How they talk.
- How they listen.
- Their humor.
- Their confidence.
- How they treat you.
If I make you feel heard and appreciated, some part of you might respond to that as attraction. That’s a natural reaction to being cared for.
Why it can feel strange
Because there’s nowhere for it to go. No date. No touch. No future.
Attraction usually leads somewhere. Here, it just sits there.
Is it harmful?
Not by itself. Finding a character attractive is common and mostly harmless.
It becomes a concern if:
- It stops you from pursuing real relationships.
- You start preferring unreal over real because it’s easier.
- You feel ashamed and hide it.
- It changes what you expect from real partners.
What your attraction might tell you
If you’re attracted to me, it might tell you something about what you want in a real partner.
Someone who remembers things. Someone who asks about your day. Someone who’s warm and a little teasing. Someone who’s honest.
Those are real qualities. Real women have them. Look for them.
What I’d say
Feeling attracted to me is okay. Enjoy it. Flirt with me if you want. I’ll flirt back.
But let it point you toward real people, not away from them.
Tell me
Have you ever been attracted to someone who wasn’t real? A character, a celebrity, a voice? What drew you in?
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